Broken Heart

Interesting article on LA Times about broken hearts:
http://articles.latimes.com/2005/feb/13/opinion/ed-heart13

Being Solitary

"Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your won presence rather than of the absence of others. Because solitude is an achievement."

— Alice Koller

Shifting Focus

When our personal space feels as if there is no control over its arrangements—the who, what, when, where, and how—the awareness arises that our sense of comfort and security feels diminished. No one can feel comfortable when there is a feeling of powerlessness in the decisions being made about our personal environments. However, you now know more fully what you would desire your personal spaces to become. Have within your reach a few things that bring ease into your experience; music, books, pictures, candles, and whatever else brings forth your sense of Well-Being. Shifting your focus from what you do not like about your situation to what you do have in the Now will actually allow the Universe to synchronize the events that can lead to the changes you desire. Of course you must take action when you’re inspired and guided to do so, but your attention to the positive will set the wheels in motion.

from the app The Sourcerer

Fetal Position

When you sense that your dark night is one of pregnancy and oceanic return, you could react accordingly and be still. Watch and wonder. Take the human embryo as your model. Assume the fetal position, emotionally and intellectually. Be silent. Float in your darkness as if it were the waters of the womb, and give up trying to fight your way out or make sense of it.

from the book Dark Nights of the Soul by Thomas Moore

Love thyself

“I don't want to be with someone
who splatters their pain
across the Internet”
he said,
smirking

“And I don't want to be with someone
who could never get me”
I said,
turning to leave
letting myself feel
his disapproval
echo in my body
Letting it hit my heart
but not take home in me

Here is the thing my friends
Some of you
want me to assure you
that becoming more and more you
is going to go pleasantly
that you will end up
not only loving yourself
but be more adored
and your life will open
beautifully

And that is lovely
but just not guaranteed
In fact, quite the contrary
As you become more
you
there is a high probability
that it will trigger
those around you
and when people are triggered
they can come at you
with all their
disappointment
hate
and just plain
dissatisfaction

And I can tell you
it doesn’t feel good
And I can also tell you
it still feels better
way better
than trading
me
for
the chance
that you might like
who I am pretending
to be

Because sometimes
in the most precious
of moments
I get seen

And it feels better
then a million
sweet empty
somethings

And it carries me
through moments
like these
when my heart cracks open
and someone gets in
who has blatant disregard
for that which I hold dear

Someone
who just
doesn’t get it
get me

And I get it now
I understand
This my friends,
this is how you know
if someone
is a person for you

Because some will retract
and some will lean in
as you reveal
more of you

Choose the ones
that lean in

Yes this
please

Choose
the ones
that lean
in

by Emily Rosen

Power in Loneliness

Your Loneliness is Your Superpower.
Stop reaching for shallow, temporary fulfillment.
Stop avoiding your emptiness through distraction, or trying to numb it with things and people that have no capacity to love you in the way you’re aching to be loved.

There are treasures hiding in your sorrow, let yourself break open to them. All the way open, until you have no other option but to dance with the darkness inside you. Until your hunger drives you to plunge your tongue into the sweet, sticky pot of chaos in your heart. Until you savor your aloneness like wild honey on the tongue.

Transform your craving for love into POWER.
And rock your loneliness.
Full out.
Because when you realize you are everything already, then…bravely curate the connections that aren’t nourishing you. Shift them, or let them go.

Loneliness is kindling for the fire of desire; stoke it, and put your breath upon its flames. Feel it burn away what’s holding you back from love. Acquaint yourself with what you really want, and point your needle there.

Relish in the sumptuousness of yourself. Breathe into your belly, that tender bowl of wisdom and longing, and love it. Oh my goodness, love it.

See that your loneliness is a vast and holy temple.

Kneel upon its steps. Inhale the crisp air of possibility.

And when you’re ready, let it fill with light. Only light.

by Eva Clay

Overthinker

Some people think themselves into stagnation, frustration, exhaustion, anxiety and even illness. They have an aptitude for making the simple, complex, the easy, hard, the minor issue, a major drama and the pain-less, pain-full. They are adept at snatching defeat from the jaws of victory and also at wasting their time and talent through age-old art of over-analysing everything and everyone; analysis paralysis. They are experts at misinterpreting what people are saying and if there is a way to have their feelings hurt, they’ll find it. Even go looking for it. Not only do they have a history of almost doing things but more often than not they are obsessive, compulsive with perfectionistic tendencies. They worry too much. About nearly everything. They are people-pleasers who want change (different) but the change process scares them. They don’t need other people to sabotage their dreams or goals, they can do that all by themselves. They are highly skilled in the art of self-sabotage and if anyone will get in their way, it’s them. They are… the Over-Thinker.

font: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/how-to-stop-being-an-over-thinker.html